When they say "You've Changed" - What weight does it carry for you?

Change. It’s a simple word, yet it carries with it a complex tapestry of emotions, experiences, and, often, resistance. “You’ve changed.” How many times have you heard those words in your life? For such a short phrase, it sure holds a lot of weight, especially when said with an accusatory tone as if it were a bad thing.

Over the past few years, as I’ve delved deeper into my journey of personal growth, I’ve heard this statement more times than I can count. It hasn't always been offered as a compliment or in celebration of my progress. More often than not, it’s been tinged with disappointment, confusion, or even resentment. But here's the undeniable truth: I have changed.

I’ve evolved. I’ve faced life’s inevitable storms head-on, choosing to rise from the wreckage better, not bitter. It’s been a continuous process of learning, unlearning, and relearning, of breaking down old walls and building new paths. A journey of embracing the discomfort that comes with stepping into the unknown parts of myself. 🫶🏽💪🏽

What often goes unspoken is the quiet pain of outgrowing people, friends, family, those who might lash out or retreat at the emergence of the new you. It’s an emotional landscape fraught with guilt, nostalgia, and the persistent pang of growing apart.

"When they say you've changed, it's because they're unable to say you've grown"

But let me share something crucial: Change is not the problem. In many ways, it holds up a mirror, reflecting back to others where they might feel stagnant or have regressed. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” what they often mean is, “You no longer fit the version of you I was comfortable with.” And that’s okay.

Real growth, meaningful change, it’s inherently uncomfortable, both for us and for those around us. But the discomfort is part of the process, a necessary passage toward becoming who we’re meant to be. So, I urge you, from someone who’s walked this path and continues to do so, to keep going. Keep evolving. Keep doing the inner work. The people who are truly meant for you, those who genuinely have your best interests at heart, will never shame your progress or attempt to hold you back. Instead, they’ll celebrate your achievements, large and small. 🙏🏽

Not everyone has the courage it takes to grow. Not everyone will cheer as you cross your personal finish lines. That’s one of life’s more challenging truths, but an essential lesson nonetheless.

As you navigate your own journey, remember that change is a testament to your courage and strength. Embrace it fully, for it is a reflection of your resilience and your commitment to becoming the best version of yourself.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on change and personal growth. Have you experienced similar challenges? Are there moments you’re proud of? Share your stories and insights on a social media post and tag me in it @theindianlifecoach. Let’s continue to learn and grow together.

P.S. A shoutout to @chriswillx for the inspiration from a quote on his podcast that sparked these reflections. - "When they say you've changed, it's because they're unable to say you've grown"

Keep shining, and keep evolving. Your future self is cheering you on. 🌟